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A note to myself ...

22/3/2017

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to the doormat in me;
you have the right to say no.
never apologize for your decisions— explain yourself only at your discretion.
never feel pressured to defend your choices.
you do not need a reason to put you first.
let your favors be in love and come from your overflow.
do not starve yourself to feed others out of fear of loneliness.
say “no” today.
say it again.
don’t waste time trying to figure out who feels what about you.
you have the right to be the only person you live for.
free up your time that was once full of commitments that didn’t honor you.
the kind of love worth a favor is counterfeit.
do not become bitter when you see the love you gave was not returned to you.
continue to love with discernment.
you have the right to boundaries that only abide by you, and cause no harm to others.
make it a mantra for others to follow.
fall in love with having a voice.
now fall in love with hearing your voice.
become your favorite sound.
you have the right to love that won’t exploit you.
there are people who are okay with you living for yourself.
the love you seek flows freely within you.
you have the right to please you. do what makes you smile.
you have the right to relationships with those
that you won’t ask you to pay with your life to love them.
your love belongs where it’s appreciated most, not with the highest bidder.

to the manipulator in me;
you have the right to engage in confrontations.
you do not always have to concede to psychological warfare.
allow people to know your wants, needs and desires in its most natural form— tell them.
you do not have to live avoiding altercations.
let that nervous feeling in the pit of your stomach be a reminder
of your release from feeling undeserving.
you have the right to ask for what you want directly, confidently.
you do not have to plant seeds, use power of suggestion,
and create dramatic scenes acting out roles of victim & damsel to access the affection you long for. you have the right to be honest with yourself.
you have a duty to remind people how you prefer to be loved.
you have a duty to know what to tell people because you know yourself.
you have a right to authenticity, and a life void of ulterior motives.
you can be yourself and still receive what you need.
you will never have to deceive, extort, or exploit others for your needs again
because you know there is enough for you.
you have the right to ask for more from others.
you don’t have accept everything that is given.
you have the right to be vulnerable.
you have a right to be safe.


to the ugliest parts of me;
you have the right to believe beautiful.
you deserve to be showered with compliments.
accept every kind word you receive without a counter argument.
do not second-guess celebrations of yourself.
bask in your moments of worship.
you are glorious.
we will never experience the unique frequency that is you, again.
honor your rare existence.
you are precious to me.
be the best you there is.
walk upright, and have compassion stored for the days that you don’t.
you have the right to forgive yourself.
the love you demand does not rely on successes and failures but on inherent self-worth.
you are allowed to be imperfect, and you are allowed to receive love while imperfect.
be proud of your work.
there is healing in every mistake you made.
they have a right to be seen so they can touch others.
you are a picture best when shown when complete.
find beauty in your own right.
join hands with the rest of your existence.
i am not complete without you.


Warsan Shire

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A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others ...

11/3/2017

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A Helpful Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Written by Joshua Becker

"Comparison is the thief of joy.”  Theodore Roosevelt

I’ve struggled with it most of my life.
Typically, I blame it on having a twin brother who is five inches taller with much broader shoulders. But if I was being truly honest, more likely,
it is simply a character flaw hidden somewhere deep in my heart.

I’ve lived most of my life comparing myself to others.
At first, it was school and sports.
But as I got older, I began comparing other metrics:
job title, income level, house size, and worldly successes.
I have discovered there is an infinite number of categories upon which we can compare ourselves and an almost infinite number of people to compare ourselves to.
Once we begin down that road, we never find an end.

The tendency to compare ourselves to others is as human as any other emotion.
Certainly I’m not alone in my experience. 
But it is a decision that only steals joy from our lives.

And it is a habit with numerous shortcomings:

Comparisons are always unfair.
We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others.

Comparisons, by definition, require metrics.
But only a fool believes every good thing can be counted (or measured).

Comparisons rob us of precious time.
We each get 86,400 seconds each day.
And using even one to compare yourself or your accomplishments to another is one second too many.

You are too unique to compare fairly.
Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else.

You have nothing to gain, but much to lose. 
For example: your pride, your dignity, your drive, and your passion.

There is no end to the possible number of comparisons.
The habit can never be overcome by attaining success.
There will also be something—or someone—else to focus on.

Comparison puts focus on the wrong person.
You can control one life—yours.
But when we constantly compare ourselves to others,
we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.

Comparisons often result in resentment. 
Resentment towards others and towards ourselves.

Comparisons deprive us of joy.
They add no value, meaning, or fulfillment to our lives.
They only distract from it.

Indeed, the negative effects of comparisons are wide and far-reaching.
Likely, you have experienced (or are experiencing) many of them first-hand in your life as well.
How then, might we break free from this habit of comparison? 

Consider, embrace, and proceed forward with the following steps.

A Practical Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Take note of the foolish (and harmful) nature of comparison.
Take a good look at the list above.
Take notice of comparison’s harmful effects in your life.
And find priority to intentionally remove it from the inside-out.

Become intimately aware of your own successes.
Whether you are a writer, musician, doctor, landscaper, mother, or student,
you have a unique perspective backed by unique experiences and unique gifts.

You have the capacity to love, serve, and contribute.
You have everything you need to accomplish good in your little section of the world.
With that opportunity squarely in front of you, become intimately aware of your past successes.
And find motivation in them to pursue more.

Pursue the greater things in life.
Some of the greatest treasures in this world are hidden from sight:
love, humility, empathy, selflessness, generosity.
Among these higher pursuits, there is no measurement.
Desire them above everything else and remove yourself entirely from society’s definition of success.
Compete less.
Appreciate more.

There may be times when competition is appropriate, but life is not one of them.
We have all been thrown together at this exact moment on this exact planet.
And the sooner we stop competing against others to “win,”
the faster we can start working together to figure it out.

The first and most important step in overcoming the habit of competition is to
routinely appreciate and compliment the contribution of others.
Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.
Gratitude always forces us to recognize the good things we already have in our world.

Remind yourself nobody is perfect.
While focusing on the negatives is rarely as helpful as focusing on the positives,
there is important space to be found remembering that nobody is perfect
and nobody is living a painless life.
Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome.
And everybody is suffering through their own, whether you are close enough to know it or not.

Take a walk.
Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others, get up and change your surroundings.
Go for a walk—even if only to the other side of the room.
Allow the change in your surroundings to prompt change in your thinking.

Find inspiration without comparison.
Comparing our lives with others is foolish.
But finding inspiration and learning from others is entirely wise.
Work hard to learn the difference.

Humbly ask questions of the people you admire or read biographies as inspiration.
But if comparison is a consistent tendency in your life,
notice which attitudes prompt positive change and which result in negative influence.

If you need to compare, compare with yourself.
We ought to strive to be the best possible versions of ourselves—not only for our own selves,
but for the benefit and contribution we can offer to others.
Work hard to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Commit to growing a little bit each day.

And learn to celebrate the little advancements you are making without comparing them to others.
With so many negative effects inherent in comparison, it is a shame we ever take part in it.
But the struggle is real for most of us.
Fortunately, it does not need to be.
And the freedom found in comparing less is entirely worth the effort.

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Paper dolls ...

9/3/2017

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Dolls come in so many shapes and forms.
Dolls to cut up and play with.
Dolls to admire on the wall or mantle.
Soft creations to snuggle into bed with.

Dolls which are confidantes and keepers of secrets.
Dolls which are talismans imbued with special powers.
Dolls which can bring us financial gain,
and those which revitalise the spirit.

Dolls are keepers of history and her-story.
They transport us in time and space.
Dolls are an intrinsic part of being human.
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Fearless girl ...

9/3/2017

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Picture
Art shapes the world.
It challenges the status quo.
It confronts bullies and prejudice.
It invites reflection and change.
It raises questions and encourages debate.
It stirs the emotion and feeds the soul.
It is a call to action and to reaction.
Art empowers simply because it exists.

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International Women's Day ...

8/3/2017

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May we reach out and open our arms and Heart to all Women.
Hand in Hand, Heart to Heart.
May Sisterhood expand and expand!

Great Spirit, creator of ALL and creator of women,
Give to women of our time the strength to persevere,
the courage to speak out,
the faith to believe -beyond all systems and institutions
So that the face of the Beloved on earth may be seen
in all its beauty, so that men and women become whole.

We give praise for the multitudes of women, men, young people,
and children, who are seeking to be witnesses of Peace,
Trust, and reconciliation throughout the world.
In the footsteps of the holy witnesses of all the ages.

May all women find the courage to live from the Heart
Grace us and this world with balanced feminine energy
May we embrace all cultures, sizes and ages
May we see beauty in ALL
Let us celebrate life

May Women Circles be available for all women
May all daughters learn the Sacredness of Sisterhood
May we be their example
and may all Women Unite!

Let us honor our elders
Let us be vital to ourselves and existence
May we embrace the Voice of the Heart
May ALL beings be nourished
May ALL beings be Healed
A happy Loving and joyful Women's Day to all!

May we RISE in SISTERHOOD!

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How its made ...

7/3/2017

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How often do we pause and consider
how an object has come into existence;
how many hours did its manufacture take;
how many people were involved in its construction;
was each person involved paid a just wage;
were materials sourced from a sustainable place of origin;
have we paid a price reflective of the creativity and artisan-ship involved?

Are we mindful of the quality of life of the artisans?
How has purchase of an item contributed to the common good?
Do we treat each object in our possession with a thankful attitude?
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    I am a doll-maker; a doll interpreter; a doll activist, perhaps, using this medium to reflect on the human condition.

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